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1) If you have a question regarding me, my relationships, my sexuality, my availability, my status as a Domme/sub/whatever, or in short ANYTHING relating to sex, love, lust, and physical contact, if it can't be asked in the presence of my mates, my boys, and/or Grr Household... DON'T ASK IT, the answer will be a rousing 'fuck off' if you purposely go around behind ANYONE's back to ask me.

2) My body, MY decisions. We've been through this, folks. I want to hear your opinions, but I do NOT want you to decide that Your Way is the Only Way and attempt to force me into a decision regarding my health, pregnancy, body decoration, use, etc.

3) Don't piss off my mates. Don't piss off my girlfriends/boyfriends. Don't piss off my friends. Doing ANY of the above guarantees that you've pissed ME off, and likely anyone in the above group as well, just by fucking with one of us. We're fambly, and ya just don't mess with fambly.

4) If you say you are going to do something, DO IT, or don't say it. Whether the something is a promise of a task completed, or a gift offered, or a threat... if you aren't going to act on it, keep your mouth SHUT, I don't need your hot air.

4a) You can't always account for circumstances - if for some reason you promised something with the best intent possible and life screws it up, that's NOT YOUR FAULT. Let me know what happened, apologise, show that you at least care something went wrong, and we'll be fine. Everyone forgets, everyone has complications, I can UNDERSTAND those.

5) If you are now, or have ever been, sleeping with or coming into frequent contact with anyone that I wouldn't touch with a ten-foot pole, the answer to 'will I have sex with you' is a resounding NO. I don't need any more health problems.

5a) If, within the last, oh, week, you have gotten a full STD screening and are in good health, then we can negotiate about the have-ever-beens.

6) When you ask me something, I will answer. If you don't want to know the answer, DON'T ASK THE QUESTION. You might not get the answer you were expecting or hoping for, and it's really your own problem for asking when you didn't want to hear.

6a) If I ask you a question, yes, I expect an answer, even if the answer is 'I can't/won't answer that'. Don't just ignore the question. And don't lie. I WILL find out sooner or later, and then life will really suck.

6b) If you have a secret (particularly regarding one of my mates/loves), and tell me, keep in mind that it is possible that Caleb, Kadin, Torian, Ryan, and/or Grr may be told at some point, particularly if it directly affects them and by telling them, I can make their life improve or help them avoid a potential problem. I won't tell about surprise birthday parties; I will tell about surprise ambushes.

7) I value personal space. If you invade mine too many times, you will no longer have the opportunity to do so - I will start avoiding you every chance I get.

8) There is no 'three strikes' rule, although I do try to give people plenty of chances to make up for mistakes... there is simply the 'jax has had too much' point, and it varies from case to case. One really BIG fuckup takes the place of several smaller ones - you get the picture, yes?

9) DO NOT hurt my mates, my loves, my boys, my friends, etc. Me? I can take care of myself, and if I can't, said mates and co. will kick your ass for me. I wouldn't be a good friend if I didn't do the same for them.

10) Turn about is both fair play and foreplay. I am a switch - don't think that just because you see me in cuffs one day, you can order me around the next and get away with it... and don't think that just because I ordered YOU around, that I am going to want to be Domineering Bitch Queen 24/7 for you from then on. I get tired and want breaks just like anyone else.

If you've made it this far, thanks for reading. These... semi-snarky, semi-warning, very serious. It boils down to this: there are people in my life who matter... there are people in my life who matter MORE... and there's the rest of the world. The first list is short, the second list shorter still, and the third list gets longer every day. *wry grin* Cynicism at its best. Or something. I'm on a lot of medication right now, a LOT of antihistamines and steroids and painkillers and the end result is this annoying haze where I can't figure out what to say until way after the fact. Part, maybe even most, of this entry is in response to a question I and Ryan sort of got asked last night.

Poorly.

See, if you want something, it's not a good idea to let me know that the something is a second-best choice (particularly if the something is me), or say openly that you'd intended to more-or-less sneak around m'loves to ask, or be damn near living with people that make me very nervous from a health standpoint, or walk around for weeks threatening my friends and mates... yeah.

The answer, at the moment, is a 'let's just be friends' kind of thing. Change a few of the problem points, and we'll see. Until then? Please don't even ask. The answer WILL be no.

Yeah.

That said, today is apparently Errand Day and Carl is living on the phone. Kadin, if you can't get through or if I'm not here, email me the card info if you do NOT work tomorrow. If you DO work tomorrow, I expect to see an entry in the SLRN journal. *faint smile*

It feels startlingly good to be back into Full Rant Mode.

Oh, and I have two new blank books. I'm hoping inspiration will strike WITHOUT me getting lost in Masters Of Orion instead of typing.

*pads off, stretching dizzily, to see if the van is available to go get groceries, shampoo, soap, scrub, stockings, and other such things*

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